As sad as it is, there are always going to be people who try to bring you down. They’ll dim your spotlight, drag you for something that you love, and make you feel ashamed for something that you used to be proud of. Sadly, that’s just life.
Before I went to secondary school, I used to write poetry. There’s nothing that will kill a kid’s creativity quite like other kids. I soon became embarrassed and ashamed of the thing that used to make me feel proud and accomplished, and I left my poetry behind me. I wish I’d never stopped, because maybe I could have gotten somewhere.
Once I got to college, my source of shame changed. Suddenly I was being made fun of for liking certain pop bands. I had one friend who made me feel like I was on a points system, and he would deduct points from me for every ‘rubbish’ band that I liked until I felt worthless. What was so bad about the fact that I liked dancing around my kitchen to What Makes You Beautiful? What impact did it have on him?
I know that these are small examples, and a lot of people suffer a whole lot worse, but it just goes to show that no matter how petty it is, someone will always drag you down for it. If I could go back in time and speak to my eleven year old self, I’d tell myself not to give up writing poetry. If I could go back and talk to my seventeen year old self, I’d tell myself to block out that friend as soon as possible and dance to catchy pop songs with no shame. Real friends don’t make you feel bad for what you love.
I’ve learned a lot about what makes a real friend over the years, and I’ve had to teach myself a few lessons too. It’s okay to admit when you did wrong, and maybe none of us have been great friends to some people. But all you need to do is support other people’s ambitions, and you’re on the right path.
If somebody is making you feel bad for something you love, or the way that you act, it’s not you that’s the problem. Don’t let anybody change who you are, and embrace your ambitions fully. Don’t hide yourself away.